well, why not try
Daniusoft iTransfer. it alway works well for me. many of my friends are using this product. i think it meets your needs.
it has the following features:
1. Transfer videos and music to iPod/iPhone directly .
2. Transfer video/audio files from iPod/iPhone to PC. (then you can play videos on the player screen)
3. Transfer iPod/iPhone videos and music to iTunes.
Hope this may help you. have a good day.