I have been having the exact same problem i can turn on the xbox with my controller. Then the lights around the controller telling you your position keep blinking i try the connecting buttons around the control and xbox. They act like they are connected but then they do the same thing again. I need help.

Connect a game controller
Solutions
Learn how to connect a wireless or wired controller to your Xbox 360 console.
Connect a wireless Xbox controller

1. Turn on your console.
2. Press and hold the Guide button on the controller until the controller turns on.

1. Press and release the connect button on the console.

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1. Within 20 seconds, press and release the connect button on the controller.

1. When the lights surrounding the power button on the console stop flashing, the controller is connected.

On the Xbox 360 S console, each connected controller is assigned to one of four positions. Each position corresponds to a lighted section around the console power button and the controller Guide button. On the 360 E console, a solid green light on the front of the console indicates that the controller is connected. To determine the player position associated with your accessory, look at the ring of light that surrounds the Guide button on the controller.

If the controller does not turn on, check the batteries. Insert fresh AA batteries, making sure they are correctly positioned in the battery case.
You can also use the Xbox 360 Play & Charge Kit or the Xbox 360 Quick Charge Kit to power the controller. Learn more about Xbox controllers and chargers.
To connect additional controllers, follow these same steps again. You can connect up to four controllers to the console. Each connected controller is assigned a position that corresponds with the lighted sections that appear around the console's power button and around the Guide button located in the middle of each controller.

• To disconnect a wireless controller, press and hold the Guide button for three seconds, and then choose to turn the controller off.
• When you turn off the console, the controller will reconnect the next time you turn on the console.
• The controller can be connected to only one console at a time. You can connect the controller to a different console, but the connection to the previously connected console will be lost.

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Connect a game controller
Solutions
Learn how to connect a wireless or wired controller to your Xbox 360 console.
Connect a wireless Xbox controller

1. Turn on your console.
2. Press and hold the Guide button on the controller until the controller turns on.

1. Press and release the connect button on the console.

Xbox 360 E console Xbox 360 S console Original Xbox 360 console

1. Within 20 seconds, press and release the connect button on the controller.

1. When the lights surrounding the power button on the console stop flashing, the controller is connected.

On the Xbox 360 S console, each connected controller is assigned to one of four positions. Each position corresponds to a lighted section around the console power button and the controller Guide button. On the 360 E console, a solid green light on the front of the console indicates that the controller is connected. To determine the player position associated with your accessory, look at the ring of light that surrounds the Guide button on the controller.

If the controller does not turn on, check the batteries. Insert fresh AA batteries, making sure they are correctly positioned in the battery case.
You can also use the Xbox 360 Play & Charge Kit or the Xbox 360 Quick Charge Kit to power the controller. Learn more about Xbox controllers and chargers.
To connect additional controllers, follow these same steps again. You can connect up to four controllers to the console. Each connected controller is assigned a position that corresponds with the lighted sections that appear around the console's power button and around the Guide button located in the middle of each controller.

• To disconnect a wireless controller, press and hold the Guide button for three seconds, and then choose to turn the controller off.
• When you turn off the console, the controller will reconnect the next time you turn on the console.
• The controller can be connected to only one console at a time. You can connect the controller to a different console, but the connection to the previously connected console will be lost.

Learn how to connect a wireless or wired controller to your Xbox 360 console.
Connect a wireless Xbox controller

1. Turn on your console.
2. Press and hold the Guide button on the controller until the controller turns on.

1. Press and release the connect button on the console.

Xbox 360 E console Xbox 360 S console Original Xbox 360 console

1. Within 20 seconds, press and release the connect button on the controller.

1. When the lights surrounding the power button on the console stop flashing, the controller is connected.

On the Xbox 360 S console, each connected controller is assigned to one of four positions. Each position corresponds to a lighted section around the console power button and the controller Guide button. On the 360 E console, a solid green light on the front of the console indicates that the controller is connected. To determine the player position associated with your accessory, look at the ring of light that surrounds the Guide button on the controller.

If the controller does not turn on, check the batteries. Insert fresh AA batteries, making sure they are correctly positioned in the battery case.
You can also use the Xbox 360 Play & Charge Kit or the Xbox 360 Quick Charge Kit to power the controller. Learn more about Xbox controllers and chargers.
To connect additional controllers, follow these same steps again. You can connect up to four controllers to the console. Each connected controller is assigned a position that corresponds with the lighted sections that appear around the console's power button and around the Guide button located in the middle of each controller.

• To disconnect a wireless controller, press and hold the Guide button for three seconds, and then choose to turn the controller off.
• When you turn off the console, the controller will reconnect the next time you turn on the console.
• The controller can be connected to only one console at a time. You can connect the controller to a different console, but the connection to the previously connected console will be lost.

Connect a wired Xbox controller
Plug the Xbox 360 Wired Controller into a USB port on the Xbox 360 console. There are two USB ports on the front of the console. To disconnect the controller, pull on the connector, not the cable.
The cable on the Xbox 360 Wired Controller has an inline release. The inline release on the controller cable is a safety feature designed to reduce the chance of the Xbox 360 console falling if the cable is pulled.
Wireless controller troubleshooting
If your wireless controller disconnects or cannot connect to your console, see Xbox 360 Wireless Controller disconnects or can't connect.
If your wireless controller does not turn on or loses power, try the following solutions:
Solution 1: Replace the batteries
Insert a new set of AA alkaline batteries into the Xbox 360 Wireless Controller, and then try to turn it on.
Solution 2: Try a different battery pack
If you have another Xbox 360 Wireless Controller, take the battery pack off that controller and attach it to your controller. Then try to turn your controller on.
If your controller works with the different battery pack, your original battery pack might be defective. If your controller is under warranty, you can order a replacement battery pack from Xbox Support . See the Assistance section at the bottom of this page for more information.
If your controller is out of warranty, you can buy a new battery pack from a retail store.
Solution 3: Try a rechargeable battery packIf you or a friend has an Xbox 360 Rechargeable Battery Pack, attach that battery pack to your controller and try to use your controller. If your controller works with the rechargeable battery pack attached, you can buy a new battery pack from a retail store or order a replacement battery pack from Xbox Support. See the Assistance section at the bottom of this page for more information.

1. Turn on your console.
2. Press and hold the Guide button on the controller until the controller turns on.
   
3. Press and release the connect button on the console.
   Xbox 360 S console Original Xbox 360 console
4. Within 20 seconds, press and release the connect button on the controller.
   
5. When the lights surrounding the power button on the console stop flashing, the controller is connected.
   

Each connected controller is assigned to one of four positions. Each position corresponds to a lighted section around the console power button and the controller Guide button.
If the controller does not turn on, check the batteries. Insert fresh AA batteries, making sure they are correctly positioned in the battery case.

You can also use the Xbox 360 Play & Charge Kit or the Xbox 360 Quick Charge Kit to power the controller. Learn more about Xbox controllers and chargers.
To connect additional controllers, follow these same steps again. You can connect up to four controllers to the console. Each connected controller is assigned a position that corresponds with the lighted sections that appear around the console's power button and around the Guide button located in the middle of each controller.

• To disconnect a wireless controller, press and hold the Guide button for three seconds, and then choose to turn the controller off.
• When you turn off the console, the controller will reconnect the next time you turn on the console.
• The controller can be connected to only one console at a time. You can connect the controller to a different console, but the connection to the previously connected console will be lost.

You may need to "Sync" the controller to your Xbox console.

1) Press the sync button on your Xbox 360. The green lights on the Xbox will swirl.
2) Press the small white button on the controller (between the bumper buttons).

After a few seconds, the position 1 green LED should light up on the controller.

If you power up a new controller and the Ring of Light lights just keep cycling around in a circle without settling on a position, this means that the game console does not recognize that controller.

This can happen with a new controller or when replacing batteries.

To sync it up with the XBox 360, you need to first turn on your game machine,

then turn on the wireless controller (push the Xbox button and hold it until it lights up),

then press the little connect button on the game console (round button to the right of the two memory slots on the front of the machine),

then press the connect button on the rear of the wireless controller in between the left and right buttons that you normally push with your index fingers (above and to the right of the battery release button).

The Ring of Light will cycle on the controller and then it will be assigned a position by the Xbox and stay lit. To turn a controller off or disconnect it, press and hold the Xbox button in the middle for a second or two until the light goes off - if you are in the middle of a game it will ask you if you want to turn off just the controller or the console as well. When the console powers down, all wireless controllers are automatically turned off.


If this does not work, attempt to connect with a different controller to make sure that the controller you are trying to use is not defective.

Hope this helps!

Did you try to see if your tv's hdmi/component cable input(s) are working properly? Try another device to see if it works. Then check your cables and make sure all of them are pluged in at the right place and securely in. If it still doesn't work, then contact Microsoft because it's an internal error. Also it wouldn't hurt to unplug everything from the 360 and repluging it. Microsoft always says that as a first troubleshoot.

Try this:
Under heading "How can I change the screen positions for my wireless controllers?"
http://www.xbox.com/en-US/support/systemuse/xbox360/resources/supportfaq.htm

To reset the screen configuration for an Xbox 360 Wireless Controller:

1. Turn off your Xbox 360 console and any connected Xbox 360 wireless controllers.
   
   (To turn off your wireless controller, power down the system and wait for the lights around the controller's Xbox Guide button to disappear.)
2. Manually turn on your Xbox 360—don't use your controller's Xbox Guide button.
3. Press the connect button on the front of your console. This is the small button just to the right of (or below, if your console is on its side) the port for Memory Unit B. The lights around the console's power button will flash as the console searches for a wireless controller.
4. Press and hold the Xbox Guide button to turn on the wireless controller that you want to assign to slot one.
5. Once the controller is on and the lights are still circling the power button on the console, press your controller's connect button, located just to the right of the charge port.
   
   When the lights on your controller stop spinning, the wireless controller is configured to slot one and the upper-left quadrant light will glow.
6. Select the controller you want in slot two and repeat steps 4 and 5. You can configure up to four wireless controllers.

This could be something to do with the wire being broken inside at or around controller wire connection. To fix, you may to need to replace the wire in that section.