Im not getting fuel to the motor it will run with starting fluid through the intake but not on its own i cant find the fuel pump relay to check that

If it is carb. you don't have a relay because your fuel pump is mechanical mounted to the passenger front side of the engine if it is a v8, if it is fuel injection, most likely either your fuel pump is bad or something I had go wrong with mine was the hose that connects the fuel line to the pump had a tear in it. The bad thing is you will have to drop the tank to find out. If it is fuel injected, turn the key to the on position, you should hear the fuel pump buzz, if you hear that check your fuel filter. If the fuel filter don't fix it replace the pump. Hope this helps