Locking hi i am wondering if i can set my lock to lock automatic after i get out.

There are rumors that there are "hidden" features accessible by the dealer. If this is something you dont want, contact your local dealer and ask if that is something they can turn off.

Hi Judy , what kind of vehicle do you have ? Year an model ? ABS light has nothing to do with it not coming out of park . Problem with automatic transmission shift lock control ! Probably !
The automatic transmission shift lock control is a safety device that prevents an inadvertent shift out of PARK when the ignition is ON. The driver must press the brake pedal before moving the shift lever out of the PARK position. The system consists of the following components:
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The automatic transmission shift lock control solenoid.

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The automatic transmission shift lock control switch.

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The park/neutral safety switch.

With the ignition in the ON position, battery positive voltage is supplied to the automatic transmission shift lock control switch. The circuit continues through the normally-closed switch to the automatic transmission shift lock control solenoid. The park/neutral safety switch provides a path to ground for the automatic transmission shift lock control solenoid in the PARK position. This energizes the automatic transmission shift lock control solenoid, mechanically locking the shift linkage in the PARK position. When the driver presses the brake pedal the contacts in the automatic transmission shift lock control switch open, causing the automatic transmission shift lock control solenoid to de-energize. This allows the shift lever to move from the PARK position. When the shift lever is out of the PARK position the contacts in the neutral safety switch open and the automatic transmission shift lock control solenoid is de-energized.

Go thrue the vehicle menu there should be options in there to choose from.

first the door panel must be removed to gain access to the lock linkage.after reading your post I would be willing to bet the linkage or the retaning clip broke.It is a pretty simple system.

http://www.matrixowners.com/tsb/T-PG006-04.pdf

No. Not at all.

those remotes need to be set with the obd system.
some cars you can program the remote by turning on and off the ignition,or in other cases the key in and out until the hazards flash,then hit a button and done.
yours has to be set at the dealer

I have had this problem once before. I solved it by resetting the "automatic locks" setting on the overhead console...first turned this off and then turned it back on a day later and the locks worked again fine.