Is it normal for a child to cry a lot when they go to daycare?
There is no reason that any parent should have a "suck it up studies are important" attitude when it comes to preschool. While preschool is about learning, it is also about making friends, dealing with separation, and learning how to attend school...something that kids don't learn how to do without practice.
When a child cries at preschool it can mean any number of things:
The child is spoiled and is constantly held by mom, dad, or another family member at home and cannot stand not being held at school
The child does not feel comfortable in the classroom whether because they are uncertain about the teacher, their peers, or the separation from their parents
The child thinks that their parents are abandoning them and will not come back for them, because this is very common thinking for this age group
The child thinks that something is going to happen to them that is bad if mom and/or dad leave because they cannot fathom in their brain dealing with anything without their parents around
When a child cries at preschool, the worst thing that a parent can do is to hang around and cuddle and hold the child. This teaches the child that they can get mom or dad to stay just by crying and every time this scenario is played out, it makes the next separation that much harder. Allowing the child to bring a familiar item from home such as a favorite book, favorite stuffed animal to hold during nap time, or putting a photo of their family in their backpack or lunchbox can help a child get through the day.
In other cases, sometimes when a child cries at preschool it can be a sign of something more serious, like abuse from one of the adults in the preschool. It's important as a parent to volunteer in your child's class from time to time, observe your child's teacher, and report anything strange, unusual, or that makes you uncomfortable immediately. Additionally, you can ask your child about their day at school. Ask them questions that require more than a yes or no answer such as "What did you do at school today" vs "Did you have fun at school today". Ask your child questions like "What didn't you like about school today". Children are brutally honest and if something is going on at your child's school, they are bound to open up about it to you if you know the right questions to ask.
Jan 04, 2017 |