When I hook it up the router port does not light up.

I think you're out of luck. If you had posted this info with the 5 other posts you made you would have gotten this answer sooner.
You have over-written the PROM on the AP with garbage.
You could contact Engenius and see if they will flash the PROM with a working image otherwise you have a piece of junk.

Read page 26 ofthe product manual. http://www.engeniustech.com/resources/EOC-5610_UsersManual_20090108.pdf

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2702szYiYDA

This is a lengthy topic. Full instructions answering exactly this question can be found here:
EnGenius 2610 / 1650 bridge router configuration

Try address 192.168.1.1 in most cases this is default IP for the routers.

The seller fibbed. All of these units require configuration before they will operate. Configuration instructions are contained in the user manual:
EOC-8610EXT 8610SEXT User Manual

i forget my user name and password of my eoc 3220 router please how can i reset it

hello!

-- try to change wireless channel on your access point
-- try to enable wireless security on your wireless network
-- try to assign static ip address on your wireless computer

if you have a the router's manual,there is a guide on how to do that.

but in case you dont have the manual go to the device website and get some guide.default ip varied from different manufacturer

I have NO EXPERIENCE with this equipment; but have researched this to some degree on the internet. If you are willing to experiment with me we may both learn something. First thing I learned is the difference between ad hoc and infrastructure networks. I have a feeling the default for most wireless routers and wireless adapters is an infrastructure approach. From reading the EEOC-3220 documentation its default is called bridge mode which is an ad hoc network. (this would seem to require reconfiguring your wireless adapter whenever you move from indoors to outdoors -- not desirable.) This can be changed to an infrastructure network by configuring it as an access point which also appears to allow configuration of additional security options including WEP or WPA encryption and MAC checking and could allow hiding the SSID if desired -- all of which apparently could and should match your indoor wireless router. The preferable configuration for the EOC-3220 would be to set an IP address statically (dynamic may be possible) to one valid for the indoor wireless routers subnet and not already used in your indoor wireless router's subnet and disable DHCP on the EOC-3220 and allow your indoor network to control DHCP for the outdoor segment. From what I can tell this configuration should allow the two wireless devices to attach to your PC in a seamless or transparent manner.