How do i program my sony bd playstation 3 remote without the instruction manual?

You can also plug in your Keyboard/mouse (any usb type keyboard and/or mouse will work with a PlayStation 3). That will allow you to navigate the PS3 XMB Menu, as follows:
1) Prepare the BD Controller.
2) Go to: (Settings) > (Accessory Settings)...
3) Select [Register BD Remote Control].
4) Follow the on-screen instructions to register the BD remote control.
When the registration, or pairing, is complete, your system will assign a controller number to the remote.

Hints

• You can register only one BD remote control at a time. If you register another BD remote control, you will overwrite information on the currently registered device.
• After you reach the maximum of seven active wireless controllers, you cannot register or use a BD remote control.
• Registering the BD remote control with another PS3 system will clear the device registration from the first PS3 system.
• For details on the BD remote control, refer to the instructions supplied with the remote.
  

1 Insert the two AA batteries into back of the DVD/BD remote.

2 Power on your PlayStation 3 system manually. You can accomplish this by pressing the "PS" button in the middle of your wireless controller, or on the front of your PlayStation 3.

3 Navigate to "Settings" on the PS3 home menu, referred to as the XMB.

4 Scroll down the list of settings and select "Accessory Settings" by pressing "X" on your PS3 wireless controller.

5 Select "Register BD Remote Control" by pressing the "X" on your PS3 controller.

6 Follow the on-screen instructions that appear for registering your BD/DVD remote control. Once the remote is paired, you can control various multimedia applications on your system.

Here is your Manual (it's pretty straight forward, I'd post directions, but these messages have a character limit, so just look at this PDF file:

Sony PS3 BD Remote User Manual/Instructions

It only takes a minute. Enjoy.

C-tekk

1Insert the two AA batteries into back of the DVD/BD remote.

2Power on your PlayStation 3 system manually. You can accomplish this by pressing the "PS" button in the middle of your wireless controller, or on the front of your PlayStation 3.

3Navigate to "Settings" on the PS3 home menu, referred to as the XMB.

4Scroll down the list of settings and select "Accessory Settings" by pressing "X" on your PS3 wireless controller.

5Select "Register BD Remote Control" by pressing the "X" on your PS3 controller.

6Follow the on-screen instructions that appear for registering your BD/DVD remote control. Once the remote is paired, you can control various multimedia applications on your system.

Register Bluetooth® Device Register a Bluetooth®-compatible device with the system.
Registering a BD remote control 1.
Prepare the BD remote control.
2.
Select (Accessory Settings) under (Settings) in the home menu.
3.
Select [Register Bluetooth® Device].
4.
Select [Register BD Remote Control].
Only one BD remote control can be registered at any given time. If you register another BD remote control, information on the currently registered device will be overwritten.
5.
Follow the on-screen instructions to register the BD remote control.
When the registration (pairing) is complete, a controller number is assigned.

Use a game controller to look under System Settings - > Accessories. Choose Register BD Remote.

Hello there's a bit missing off the instructions. Do all the above plus press the X button on the handset.

So Accessories, select register bd remove, press and hold down the start and enter buttons as the instructions say plus press the X button on the handset or any other handset. Bye

nope. go to the ps3 setting part and into accesory settings. press bd remote. and follow the prompts. it is that simple.please rate

Registering a BD remote control 1.
Prepare the BD remote control.
2.
Select (Accessory Settings) under (Settings) in the home menu.
3.
Select [Register Bluetooth® Device].
4.
Select [Register BD Remote Control].
Only one BD remote control can be registered at any given time. If you register another BD remote control, information on the currently registered headset will be overwritten.
5.
Follow the on-screen instructions to register the BD remote control.
When the registration (pairing) is complete, a controller number is assigned.
Hints

• When seven SIXAXIS™ wireless controllers are in use, you cannot register or use a BD remote control.
• If you register the BD remote control with another PS3™ system, the device registration with the first PS3™ system will be cleared.
• For detailed usage instructions for the BD remote control, refer to the instruction manual for the BD remote control.

"http://manuals.playstation.net/document/en/ps3/current/settings/b
luetooth.html".

And about the update make sure if your updating with your PC you place the update file in the UPDATE folder,

Check out this link for more info, "http://www.us.playstation.com/ps3/network/updates/pc_update.html#
update_PC".

Go to Accessory settings in the PS3 Settings menu,which will have you register/sync the BD controller with the system. Follow the onscreen instructions &it will give the controller a #. Remember that any universal remote wont work..it has to be the Sony PS3 remote, as they use bluetooth technology instead of the usual infrared.