How to politely ask guests to give money instead of gifts for our wedding?
I don't event know if there is a polite/appropriate way to do this and the reason we are doing it is because my Fianc?e and I just got out of college and we are trying to start life and possibly a family. We both have good jobs but are in huge student loan debts. We'd just rather have money and chose how to spend it rather than get gifts that we may not need right now or that we can just buy in the future when we are more stable. Thanks for the help 1. We are 27 (finishing college post-grad). How old do you expect us to be? 2. I now know there isn't a polite way. 3. It's not that we don't have enough money to get married or start a family, it's just that we went to school and studied and now we have to pay for our education.
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Let them know that you've decided to simplify the wedding by only having one family member on each side. Then, maybe give them other tasks so they can still feel part of the event. Someone to direct people to seating, someone helping out with the guest book, maybe have one of them read a poem during the ceremony or ask one of them to act as your day-of coordinator.
Have someone walk with you. If you focus on the person you are about to marry, this anxiety will be very short lived and you will be happy that you got through it. Treat it like a rehearsal, not the actual ceremony. Having someone along side will ease your tension greatly! Best of luck!
Not necessarily. If that is your intention, you may want to rethink the reasons for the celebration. Some people "forget" to bring a gift and others may give a $20.00 gift, so it would take A LOT of people bringing expensive gifts to match what you spent for the wedding. Best of luck
I was in your situation, however neither of us have many friends OR family and what family we have lives miles away. We chose to do a destination wedding in Vegas. BEST plan ever. Then when we got home, we shared photos of the big event. My husband and I just planned the wedding online and he and I showed up on our day and got married! I think the family appreciated not having to spend a fortune to attend...LOL...If you live near a beach, have it there...Small, yet intimate. Best of luck!
I would hope your friend would already know to invite these two people to your shower. It will leave a bad taste in your mouth (so to speak) if they are not invited. No sense in leaving your future in-laws out of the festivities. The more, the merrier. AND they will thank you for it!