Wing mirrors keep folding out and wont stop, why? can't find a relay that controls this

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You need a good, local auto electrician with a pro-grade scan tool computer. You have a faulty module probably Body Control Module, or Security System Module, the sensors and receivers connected to them, or a general communication issue.

This is a power folding mirror?

if not the fuse.. try to disconnect the control at the mirror adjust button on the drivers side of the vehicle..there will also be a control relay somewhere too..

Tie a piece of string to the outside of your tow mirror. Run the string to the hood hinge on that side. Keep it from collapsing.

Power windows an locks work ok ? Do you know anything about automotive electeronic control modules ?
Power Mirror System
Power Mirror System Components
The power mirror system consists of the following components:
• Driver Door Switch (DDS)--An electronic control module with integrated switches and requires programming when replaced
• Passenger Door Switch (PDS)--An electronic control module with integrated switches, requires programming when replaced
• Power Mirror Direction Switch--Integrated into DDS and is a 4 position momentary switch that provides a signal input to the DDS for up, down, left/extend and right/retract with a mirror switch activation
• Mirror Select Switch--Integrated into DDS and is a 3 position switch that allows the operator to select the left or right mirror and also a neutral/fold position
• Left Outside Power Mirror--Contains both the vertical and horizontal mirror motors
• Right Outside Power Mirror--Contains both the vertical and horizontal mirror motors
• Body Control Module--An electronic control module that requires programming when replaced, serves as the power mode master and is the main message handler
• Memory Switch, if equipped with memory mirrors--Supplied power by the DDS and provides a voltage signal to the DDS upon a switch activation
• Horizontal and Vertical Position Sensors, if equipped with memory mirrors--Supplied a 5-volt and low reference by the DDS/PDS and provide a variable voltage signal to the DDS/PDS that is proportional to mirror position
• Powertrain Control Module (PCM), if equipped with memory mirrors--An electronic control module that requires programming when replaced and provides the message indicating transmission gear selection
• Driver Information Center (DIC), if equipped with memory mirrors--Part of the instrument cluster which is a an electronic control module that requires programming when replaced and is used to personalize the memory recall functions
• Fold Motor, in each of the outside mirrors, if equipped with power fold mirrors--Provides extend and retract movements of the mirror and is serviced as a complete mirror assembly
Each of the outside power mirrors contains 2 reversible motors to provide horizontal and vertical movement of the mirror glass. The vertical motor operates the up and down directions and the horizontal motor operates the left and right directions. If equipped with power folding mirrors, each outside power mirror will contain a reversible fold motor to operate the extend and retract functions. Each of the mirror motors are circuit breaker protected.

Do you know what DTC'S - diagnostic trouble codes are ?
DTC B1023
Circuit/System Description
The driver door switch (DDS) and front passenger door switch (PDS) each contain switches that control power door lock and window functions. The DDS also contains the control switch for the power outside rear view mirrors. These switches are integrated within the door control modules and are not serviceable as separate components. The DDS and PDS monitor these switch inputs for internal faults and set B1023 00 if any are detected.

You could have any number of problems an without testing , hooking up a scanner that can check DTC'S in the door module ,electrical circuit testing etc... we'd only be guessing . Your best bet mite be to take it to a qualified repair shop.

If you have electric folding mirrors fold them in, if not fold the mirror back against the spring (not easy as it is quite strong). Looking from the front, to the mirror cover side of the spindle on which the mirror pivots if you pull it forward, you will see the end of the main mirror body which has a groove it it. At the end of the groove there is a springclip which can prised up using a flat bladed screwdriver. It is easiest to place the blade under the clip and twist the clip to release it. Once fully released the cover can then be withdrawn. Refitting is the reverse of the above but if the cover does not automatically clip in place you may have to force it back with the screwdriver.

Try gtouk.com or 3si.com as it isn't that simple as you need 2 extra wires running to your door and extra relays to control the folding action.

Yes the mirrors are hinged so you can flod them against the car to keep from breaking them while being washed in an automated machine.

Has it ocurred to you that your wing mirrors are not the electrically folding type, most are not. The switch on the drivers arm rest for adjusting the mirrrors will have a separate position for folding if yours fold. The resistance to fold by hand is very stiff as you have to overcome the spring tension, even when folded by hand they do not fold as flat as you might think.
I purchased a 2006 Golf 5 GT Tdi last year it had £5000 worth of factory fitted options but did not have electrically folding door mirrors - hope this helps.

the fuse for the mirrors is in the fuse block inside the car on the left side of the dash-however the mirrors do not fold in with the switch,you fold them in with your hand-usually for storage(car cover)