Can not get my router to conect with my lap...

Couple of questions:

1) Does your laptop see any wireless networks? If yes then you know the laptop wireless adapter is working. If not, you need to look at the properties for the wireless adapter in the laptop. This may be disabled or misconfigured.

2) If step 1 proves the laptop is seeing other networks, can you verify that the router is actually broadcasting a SID? You may need to login to the router and verify the wireless configuration is correct.

Good luck and if you need more help please reply with the router make/model number along with the laptop make/model and the operating system you are using.