Questions on Honda Accord BAXA (1998-2002)transmission rebuild

Because I have always been in wonder about automatic transmissions and how they work, when the transmission in my 1998 Honda Accord EX (Fuel Injected 4 Cyl, 2.3L) began slipping and losing fluid, with a P704 error code, I got my hands on a replacement "known good" but not rebuilt transmission (model BAXA) to swap in. I KNOW I am in ~way~ over my head, but this is not urgent and I am learning a whole bunch, too. I have some $$ set aside to support this habit and being temporarily unemployed, I also have the time.

I bought the ATSG Honda Accord Techtran Manual plus the Transtec Master kit, ACCORD 4 cyl, 2.3L 98-up. I was surprised at the number of parts that are not included in the kit that call for replacement in the manual. Here are my questions:

-What is the best source for the three (34 mm) Lock Nuts (including the left handed one for the Main Shaft?) Same question for the Conical Spring Washers.
-What is the best source for the "lock washer/plate" used on the Park Lever and at lease one other place?
-The existing gaskets needs to be fully removed. I am using a razor blade scraper but it is scraping the aluminum, leaving marks. Is there a solvent that can be used along with the scraper to do a clean removal?
-The new paper gaskets are (of course) dry. When they are installed, is there any sort of gasket prep goo that should be used or should they be laid on dry and tightened down to proper torque?
-Besides the O ring on the torque converter, when the T.C. is put back in and mated to the engine, is there anything else that should be replaced? (e.g. gasket on the engine mating surface.)
-What is the best source for the special tools (Honda-only) like" Clutch Spring Compressor Bolt Assembly [07GAE-PG40200] and Clutch Spring Compressors [07LAE-PX40100] I assume Honda Parts Center, but is there an on-line source or a third party alternative?

Thanks for any help you can provide!